A quarter-life crisis can be a challenging and frustrating time, sometimes with no end in sight. However looking at this time of your life with a fresh outlook can make you realise that it’s never as bad as it seems and it can actually be a good thing. I wanted to reflect on how it is a blessing in disguise and can be the push you never knew you needed to start you on a new path.
The crisis can help you reflect and look back on what it is you have achieved, or what you feel you haven't in most cases. You can really look at what past decisions you have made and how they have shaped who you are today, and how you may act in the future if something similar were to arise again.
When I realised that I was having this awful crisis and worrying about where I was in life, I made a conscious decision to delve deep into what it was that was making me feel this way. I sat down and wrote down everything that I could think of that was bringing me down and causing my frustration. Below are a few examples of things that I feel a little defeated by at this stage in my life.
- Being in Debt
- Not being further ahead in my Career
- Living with Parents
- Not being happy
Now obviously there is no quick fix for any of these problems but at least now I knew exactly what it was that was making me feel frustrated, I could start working on them. I can also analyse why these problems have arisen in the past.
I was in debt because I had not been sensible with my money and wasn't saving. This also was why I still lived with my parents because I had not been able to save enough to move out. I was not further ahead in my career because I knew what I really wanted was to work for myself and had little passion to be employed, but I was doing nothing about it. Not being happy was tied to the above as well as my mental health so this was something that was harder to work on but again, I don't think I was trying hard enough to change my situation. Until now that is.
So what am I doing to change the above? I have paid off the majority of my debt and feel confident in continuing this until I am completely debt free but along with this I am saving. I am saving to be able to move out of my parent's home and into a house of my own and start building the future I am dreaming of.
I feel like I have a direction now that I am writing this blog and running my website. I no longer feel lost with what I am doing because although I still work full time as well as having this website, this website is giving me a purpose and the drive to create something extraordinary for myself. One day I know I can make this into something that will allow me to live a more fulfilling life.
So look at what you have written down and start thinking how can you turn it around. You need to stop being complacent or blaming things on others or circumstances that you have completely made up. You need to start taking ownership of your life and change the things that are bringing you down. So just look at each separate issue in your life and action each one, I'm sure some will overlap and others you may need to take one at a time but as long as you just make movements and take action you can get out the other side.
What is it you are working on?